Dispela bigpela majoriti blon ol pipol husait usim ol datim site em ol sinsia na hones lon ol infomasion ol providim na ol reson blon ol lon joinim. Tasol, igat sampela excepsion, na yu nid lon putim was lon wanem hap lon keepim yu yet – na lon bank akount na savin blon yu – em stap lon lon protecsion taim yu meetim ol dispela lain lon online.
Ol hevi
- Pesonal safti taim yu meetim dispela man o meri pes tu pes husait yu meetim lon online.
- Stalkim na haresmen.
- Fraud taim ol pipol wokim apeal igo lon gutpela natsa blon yu lon helpim ol aut lon sampela kain ‘unfotunat situasion’ wei ol askim yu lon salim moni lon ol.
- Ol pipol disguisim ol yet olsem sampela lain wei em ol trutru ino dispela lain stret.
- Spam, salim o fraud, especiali lon wokim ol romans fraud.
- Webkem blakmail, wei ol fraudsta recordim ol samthing yu save wokim lon webkam blon yu na usim ol dispela recordin lon blakmailim yu na extortim moni lon yu.
- Phisin imail claimim olsem em blon wanpela online datin site na em encouragim yu lon givim aut ol pesonal infomasion.
- Ol defraudim yu taim usim ol websit wei em ol posim olsem wanpela authentik site.
- Potental wei lon stealim moni blon yu sapose yu ino usim ol sekure link taim yu wokim ol peimen.
- Usim ol sampela kain certan dishones datim site wei em save:
- Setim up wanpela ‘pseudo’ o fake profil wei dispela man o meri wei yu meetim em actuali wanpela wokman blon dispela site wei wok blon em lon keepim yu stap olsem … na peim moni stap.
- Noken sendim ol contak na mesage taim yu peim ol fee lon receivim ol samthing.
Followim dispela advise lon datim online lon safe wei
Creatim online datim profil blon yu yet: protectim identiti na pesonal infomasion
Anonomos
- Yu mas stap Anonomos o keepim identiti blon yu sekret
- Choosim wanpela usarnem wei em inonap mekim olgeta lain save olsem em yu. Noken includim surnem blon yu o kainkain ol arapela infomasion wei ol gen identifyim yu kai olsem lon wok ples o insait lon profil blon yu o taim yu wokim first contak.
- Tingim olsem yu kain expresiv usarnem wei em meanim lon sexual, provocativ o controvesal wei em gen attractim ol rong attension.
- Keepim ol contak detail blon yu lon privat. Stap lon kontrol taim em kam lon wanem kain na wanem taim yu sharim dispela infomasion. Noken includim ol contak infomasion blon yu olsem imail adress, haus adress, o fone namba insait lon profil blon o lon inisal communicasion. Takim ol samthing slow na sharim moa infomasion taim yu feelim orait o comfotabal lon mekim. Em imposibal lon kisim bak ol dispela infomasion taim yu givim igo.
- Stopim ol commincasion waintaim ol lain nabout husait em attemptim lon presurim yu lon providim ol pesonal o finansal infomasion o husait em traim lon trickim yu lon proividim ol dispela infomasion. Sapose dispela kamap lon yu contactim ol datim provida hariap tru lon protectim yu yet tasol blon ol arapela usar tu.
Paswod na securiti
- Yu mas putim was taim yu acessim ol akount blon yu lon wanpela publik o lon ol komputa ol save sharim wei ol arapela lain inonap lukim o recordim ol paswod o pesonal infomasion.
- Yu mas putim was taim yu openim wanpela imail atchmen wei wanpela man o meri salim kam lon yu husait yu meetim lon nau tasol.
- Ensurim olsem yu keepim ol intanet securiti sopware blon yu up-tu-date.
Connectim waintaim ol newpela pipol online
Yu mas luksave gut lon ol pipol, takim taim blon yu na trustim ol instink blon yu. Takim acsion waintaim causion na lanim moa lon dispela man o meri bipo yu contacim em autside lon datim site. Datim servis save runim mail na chat wei yu gen save lon ol dispela lain lon safa wei na [lon monitad/kontrol] wei. Ol wokim dispela lon protectim yu, ino blon mekim moni. Usim ol dispela platfom blon ol na ol adad securiti em save givim. Sapose na taim yu laik sharim wanpela i-mail adress tingim lon creatim wanpela seperat na anonomos imail adress.
Takim taim blon yu
- Sampela taim yu bai kisim gutpela feelins lon wanpela man o meri, dispela instink em gen kamap confus lon dispela ol feelins. Takim kare na takim taim blon yu taim yu toktok igo lon ol arapela lon yu yet. Yu ino nid lon givim aut ol life stori blon yu insait lon dispela first taim yu chat – na yu ino nid lon wokim olsem. Igat plenti taim stap lon sharim ol kain detail sapose dispela relasionsip blon yu em divelop gut.
Yu mas kamap responsibal na wokim ol researsh blon yu yet
- Igat ol limit lon ol abiliti blon online datim provida lon checkim ol bakgraun blon ol usar na verifyim ol infomasion ol providim. Ol bai hat tru lon wokim wanpela kriminal recod check lon olgeta usar usim dispela site. Na dispela man o meri em gen kamap problim sapose em nogat wanpela recod. Olsem na, noken kisim dispela fals sens blon securiti becos yu stap lon ol datim site; wokim ol researsh blon yu gut lon lanim moa lon dispela man o meri wei yu gen wokim ok gutpela desison bipo yu tingting lon meetim em. Checkim lon lukim sapose dispela man o meri yu gat intres lon em stap lon ol arapela sosol netwok site kain olsem Pesbuk, wokim wanpela web searsh lon lukim sapose em gat ol arapela recod blon dispela man o meri lon online, na sapose posibal usim google imag searsh lon checkim ol profil foto blon em.
Mekim moni reques em red lite
- Blon wanem reson bai wanpela man o meri nid lon borrowim moni lon lain husait ol ino meetim, o meetim nau tasol? Igat nogat reson lon ol kain lain lon askim yu lon moni o ol finansal infomasion, even taim ol givim ol sad o tarangu stori. Yu mas olgeta taim keepim bank na akount infomasion blon yu privat. Stopim lon wokim contak hariap tru na repotim dispela mata igo lon dispela datin site.
Repotim ol unaceptabal o suspisos behavor
- Nogat wanpela lain mas allowim ol dispela ofensiv, insultin na thretenin behavor lon online lon kain wei olsem sapose ol toktok wantaim sampela lain insait lon wanpela bar o cafe. Trustim ol instink blon yu na hariap tru stopim lon wokim communicasion waintaim ol kainkain lain hudait em mekim yu feelim uncomfotabal o poret liklik. Noken feelim embares lon repotim dispela problim igo lon dispela datim servis. Yu helpim ol na tu helpim ol arapela usar tu.
Plaim safe taim yu meetim pes-tu-pes
Yu mas tingting smat na stap safe. Taim yu go lon wanpela date waintaim wanpela man o meri wei yutla meet igo kam nau tasol em gutpela lon buildim relasionsip, tasol yu mas still putim was gut lon olgeta taim. Even sapose yu feelim olsem yu stap pas liklik lon dospela man o meri thru lon imail na fone, yu mas still tingim olsem dispela man o meri em stranga yet lon yu. Olsem na em impotent olsem taim yu meetim dispela man o meri igo lon pes-tu-pes, wetha em first taim o fifth taim, yu mas still takim olgeta precasion na considerim ol dispela dos na don’ts.
1. Planim em. Tokim em. Wokem em.
Em date blon yu. Yu mas mas agree lon wanem kain samthing yutla laikim bipo yutla meet up. Noken feelim presa lon meet dispela man o meri bipo yu yet redi o taim yu ino feelim comfotabal – ol sotpela first date em alrite.
2. Meetim lon publik. Stap lon publik.
Dispela safest plan em lon meetim dispela man o meri lon ples wei em publik na stap lon ol publik ples tu. Mekim wei blon yu yet igo lon hap na go bak tu na noken feelim presa lon date blon yu igo lon haus. Sapose yu feel redi lon move igo lon wanpela privat environmen, mekim sua ol expectasion blon yu em matchim dispela date blon yu.
3. Luksave gut lon dispela man o meri, ino profil blon ol.
Dispela wei ol pipol save intaract online em in save sem olsem lon pes-tu-pes. Noken feelim nugut sapose date blon yu em open up lon wei blon toktok na tingting taim yutla meet pes-tu-pes, o sapose ol samthing ino progres hariap taim yu meetim pes-tu-pes.
4. Em ino go gut? Mekim sampela kain excus na walkabout igo.
Noken feelim nugut lon stopim dispela date sapose yu ino pilim alrite o liakim. Yu ino owim dispela man o meri wanpela samthing, no mata hamaspela taim yutla wok lon chat o wanem samthing yutla wok lon suggestim.
5. Sapose ol rapim yu o sexuali assultim yu lon date blon yu, igat helpim em stap.
Lon wanem kain circumstanses, sexual activiti againstim free will blon yu em krime. Polis na ol chariti grup o organisasion em stap lon helpim na sapotim yu.
Avoidim ol skama
Em sad olsem, ol pipol ino olsem wanem samthing yu expectim lon em. Ol datin site, sosol netwok na ol arapela intanet servis em ol skama wok lon targetim. Ol skama laikim wanpela samthing tasol – moni. Lon hia igat sampela exampal blon ol comon behavia blon ol skama wei yu mas putim was na repotim:
- Declarasion blon love – Sapose wanpela man o meri yu contactim em stat lon declarim love blon ol lon yu insait lon sampela wik (o lon dei o hour), yu mas causios lon dispela kain pasin. Yu nid lon save gut dispela man o meri lon lovim em. Ol quiktaim mesage blon love em gem meanim olsem dispela man o meri em traim lon go insait lon life blon yu, posibili lon olgeta rong reson. Usim comon sens na noken poret lon toktok lon wanpela fren lon dispela na kisim sampela sekon opinon na tingting.
- Requestim lon moni – Dispela kain wei em bai givim ol warnin bell lon olsem wanem kain wei dispela reques em kam. Ol skama bai panim ol wei lon ganim ol sympati blon yu waintaim ol kainkain stori ol bai tokim yu.
- Sampela lain offerim yu moni – Husait save givim moni igo lon ol stranga thru lon wanpela datim site? Dispela olgeta taim em skam. Na sem samthing tu igo lon d
- spela ol skeme blon kamap rich hariap tru. Ol lain husait laik kamap risc stret ol ol skama wei em save panim wei lon kisim ol bank detail o ol arapela finansal infomasion blon yu.
Thret na blakmail – Em ol nugut wod stret. Tasol lon sampela ol skama em ol save traim lon threatenim ol lain lon givim moni lon ol taim ol tokim ol olsem ol ino inonap showim ol piksa, webkem fotag o mesage wei ol dispela skama kisim lon ol dispela usar lon online.
Advise lon avoidim ol skama
- Noken tru wokim respons igo lon reques blon moni.
- Noken givim aut ol bank akount na ol arapela detail.
- Putim was lon ol kain sad stori – taim wanpela man o meri tokim yu hamaspela taim ol laik visitim yu tasol ol needim moni lon peim ol tiket/visa. O ol stori olsem wanpela desperat famili em sik na ol needim helpim blon yu peim ol medikal expens.
- Dispela wainkain toktok igo lon ol dispela fantasik tu gud bisnis deal em stap lon em – em sapose o igat sampela extra up-fron moni….
- Watchim aut lon ol dispela profil wei em gen tugim ol heart string – kain olsem ol ex-servisman o meri, o dispela lain husait em claimim olsem ol nau tasol widow lon gainim trust na sympati blon yu.
- Noken larim ol kain toktok na taim cloudim ol judgmen blon yu. Dispela ol kain convinsim toktok bai takim taim lon kam aut lon ol mesage, na taim wei yu bai nid lon gat lon trustim na valuim dispela relasionsip waintaim online contak blon yu. Dispela em ino lon mekim ol lon wokim giaman tok.
- Dispela sem warnin em lon ol askim blon ol urgensi – lon moni insait lon sotpela taim. Sampela bai askim yu lon usim ol wire servis lon salim moni igo lon ol where em ino rite.
- Putim was lon ol long distans na ovaseas relasionsip. Ol gen kamap tasol em wanpela unlikeli wei lon dispela relasionsip lon stat offline olsem na yu mas putim was lon online.
- Noticim sapose dispela contak em wok lon wokim ol toktok na samthing ino go stret o ino go lon orda na laik blon em: ol lain husait offerim ol foren namba blon contak, ol lain husait em ino luk save lon wanem samthing kamap lon kantri blon mipela – events, weatha, etc, ol lain husait laikim o needim lon salim ol mesage lon rong na unusal taim o hour.
- Putim was sapose sampela lain em ino klia lon toktok lon taim blon commicasion lon intres blon ol, o ol wok lon repitim ol samthing o tingting blon ol em stap lon narapela hap. Em ol bai laik lon dodgim o sakim ol quesion igo kam o mekim sampela excus lon ino meetim o toktok lon telefone. Profil o communicasion bai gat ol spellin na grama wei em ino luk rite tru.
- Noken sharim ol piksa o infomasion blon yu yet o ol arapela lain wei em bai mekim dispela lain lon holim dispela ol samthing lon yu. Privat life blon yu em mas stap privat igo taim yu save gut tru lon dispela ol lain ba gen stat lon trsutim ol waintaim ol samthing lon behain taim.
- Sapose yu panim sampela lain wei ol traim lon mekim yu givim moni blon yu lon ol – yu noken givim. Em yu bai wokim ol lon kam bek gen lon kisim moa lon yu. Repotim ol; even sapose olsem em ino rite lon kain taim. Ol polis igat ol team stap lon attackim ol dispela fraudsta. Larim ol protectim yu – na ol arapela tu.
- Noken poret lon askim wanpela fren – sapose yu stat lon commitim wanpela relasionsip online o lon dispela man o meri wei em bai hat lon tingting gut na stret. Sapose dispela contak em stat lon feelim strang na espesali sapose moni em ol raisim yu nid lon askim wanpela fren o relativ sapose yu ino stap lon wanpela point wei yu ting igat samthing lon repot igo lon ol datim servis. Sapose ol advisim yu lon bak of … harim toktok blon ol.
Repotim ol concen o problim
- Noken assumim olsem ol skama em ol ino smat o iliterat forena yu na ol arapela wok lon underestimatim ol.
- Skamim em wanpela nugut kain bisnis tasol em bisnis blon ol wei ol save wokim. Ol save practisim tugim lon ol hartstrin, wei ol save showim ol pasin blon tendanes o needines. Ol save tokim ol lain wanem samthing ol save laik lon harim.
- Sapose yu suspectim sampela lain husait yu toktok waintaim em wanpela skama, stopim ol communicasion na hariap tru repotim em. Yu mas noken feelim nugut o sem lon repotim dispela kain lain. Yu ino dispela kain man o meri husait mas feelim sem na stop.
- Ol kainkain pasin blon violens o abus em yu mas repotim igo lon ol lokal polis.